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Our love story and Happy Valentine’s day!

It is the day we celebrate love. A day of remembering the person right in front of us.  I’m not sure if you who are reading this are married, looking to be married or have been married for 50 years. But nonetheless, you have ended up here today. Over the past few days I have shared other love stories here on the blog, and today I will share a bit of our love story.  Since often I am the one witnessing and chatting about other stories, I thought it seemed fitting today to welcome you into my little area of the world.

It was 2001.  I had been in relationships in college and after a hard break-up, swore off dating anyone to invest my time and energy into the sweet relationships of my friends. After finishing my art degree in 3 years, I wasn’t ready to be done with college and launch into the world and my career.  There were other avenues that I wanted to explore and overseas missions was one of them. Over the summer I traveled a bunch- through Mexico, Ecuador, and then throughout the US during with a church planing pastor and his team.  Loving what I was doing, and after a chat with another friend, she convinced me to sign up for a semester long missions trip and to possibly explore the option of minoring in intercultural studies.  After prayer and talks with my family, I decided to move forward and join the team.  One of the qualifications of the trip and the minor was to do all our course work with your team for the full semester as well as do an unpaid internship with an organization in the Cities.

After finding a wonderful organization that worked with at-risk youth, I started volunteering.  While there, I met a man with a yellow backpack.  The same man I had seen in an earlier class that year on crutches.  I remembered him not only because of the bright yellow backpack, but because he would hobble into our 8am class to try to find a seat without interrupting the professor and the rest of the class (pretty unsuccessfully!) Because this was the only recollection I had of him, when paired together to help kids with an art project, it was the starting point of a long conversation for us.  Not only did I find out WHY he was on crutches (he fell from a building while trying to scale a wall on a dare), but I also found out that we would be traveling on the mission trip together, and would also have all our classes together the following semester.

This was spring of 2001.  We spent the next weeks of the semester together connecting on our love for travel, children, missions, the Bible, and roller blading (seriously, it WAS 2001!) and continued throughout the summer, following fall and mission trip to be together.  On that trip, while serving in ministry together, we both came to the conviction (in our young minds) that we were ready for marriage.  In the spring of 2002 we were engaged and six months later married.

Looking back on the timing, we know we were both really young (22 and 23!) but we wanted to be married and together.  Never for a second do I regret getting married so young. I see it as a grace as we have grown up together.  We have had children, lost children, bought homes, sold homes, walked the waters of managing a business, starting a church (if you didn’t know, Kevin is a pastor of a church plant) have had our ups and downs, and everything in between together. We have both been changed for the better and almost 15 years later and 17 years of exchanging Valentines, I can still say he is my one on only true Valentine.

Happy Valentine Day to you and your loved ones today!

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    52 weeks:: 1.6

    It is birthday day for my middle.  And a big one at that.  Elise is celebrating 10 big years and a DECADE of having her.   It is so incredible how fast time goes and I can hardly believe she is already 10.  Check out my instagram post for what is happening in her life these days, but for now, our crazy week which included::

    Science Fair (happy dance followed when we walked out of the building)
    B-day celebration with family
    Painting our bedroom in 24 hours

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      Don’t Quit… A letter to my future self

      Each and every winter I fall prey to it.

      It could be that tax season it upon me. It could be that I am shooting less and doing more book work. It could be that the winter has me down and wishing for more days outside. Or I just might be plain tired.  Whatever it is, I am ready to quit this entrepreneurial life and just head to the corporate world to punch the 9-5 clock and head home.  For the past 15 years I have worked hard to get to where I want to be, but with a lot of blood, sweat and tears.  Some days I think that working for corporate, and throwing in the towel would be easier than what I am doing now.

      As a small business owner, only 20% of my job is photographing, the part of the job I absolutely love and went to school for.  The other 80% is business.  Networking, marketing, bookwork, blogging, web-site upkeep, design, hiring people, customer service, e-mails, phone calls, coding, managing social media, are just some of the other responsibilities that I have.  At times it overwhelms me, and I feel done.

      Like I’m ready to quit. And sit on the couch eating chips and salsa while watching Gilmore Girls for the up-teenth time.

      But this is a letter to my future self and maybe to you who are struggling to keep going.

      Today might be one of those, I-really-hate-woking-for-myself, I’m-tired-of-eating-lunch-again-by-myself, I-don’t-want-to-implement-anymore-receipts-into-quickbooks (or learn anything more about quickbooks!), I’m tired of the cold, I want to be around people, walking around downtown kind of days.

      It may be a day where you feel like your business isn’t going anywhere no matter how hard you try, or a day where you feel lost in the shuffle of Instagram, Facebook,and Twitter. You may feel invisible and that your job really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.  You many not want to Snap another snap or story of how “awesome” your life really is, because you just aren’t feeling it.

      Trust me, I get it, and have said all these things to myself probably thousands of times. Owning and running a business is HARD.  It is WORK, and it is GRUELING and honestly sometimes LONELY.

      But….

      It is also rewarding and wonderful.  So on the day when you (or I ) am down and feel like quitting, don’t.

      Remember that this was your dream.  This is why you went to school for photography.  This is why you quit the corporate world.  This is why only you rule your schedule.  Deep down, you really love the thrill of being able to determine your own schedule, determining the amount of clients you want, the jobs you get to do and being able to take your kids to school and be there when they come home. You have so much more flexibility than many 9-5ers, and once you entered that world, you would go crazy.  Because you weren’t made to sit at a desk all day long.

      If you need to see people, seek them out.  Plan lunch dates, get a babysitter so you can get your nails done.  Schedule that massage in the middle of the day. Meet with others that own their own businesses and gain perspective from them.  Plan shoots that excite you. Work hard, but play hard.  Turn off the computer, phone, tablet at the end of the day and BE done.  There will always be work to do, but remember, these people.

      They are the WHY of why you chose to run your own business. So keep going.  Don’t quit, spring is only a few months away….

      Be thankful and re-read this when you need it, that’s why you wrote it!

      (Photo Credit to my wonderful and kind friend, Kate Wenzel)

       

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      • Angie Jakubiec

        Truth, every word, absolute truth!

      So you want to outsource… hiring a nanny!

      In the past few weeks, I have done a mini series on outsourcing to help you grow your business.  So far in the past few weeks on I have discussed some how’s to help manage your time and editing.

      Today I want to talk to you about hiring a nanny, baby-sitter or mother’s helper.  When my kids were small there I had all three at different times.  Our most consistent nanny was still in high school and needed her for the bulk of the summer. Eventually when she went to college, she worked for me when she could and I was able to work around her schedule.

      Now that my kids are in school, I am choosing to outsource to an editor and spend the summers with them, but when my kids were little, I chose to edit my own photos and hire a nanny/ baby-sitter when I was in the busy season.  Yes, this meant that I watched her play outside with my kids, but because she was only part time, she was a much needed break for me and for my kids!

      When/ if you choose to hire out a nanny, I have found that it is so important to work with someone your kids mesh with and a person that actually likes kids.  I know, hand to the head as in of course shouldn’t this be a given? But let me tell you I had to learn as I went.  In the past I did trades for people, baby-sitting in return for photo sessions.  While this seemed like a good idea in theory, I found that different baby-sitters had different ideas of what watching kids meant, and I felt like I was getting the cheap end of the bargain and so were my kids.

      I would recommend setting up clear boundaries and goals for your nanny’s.  When my kids were little it was pretty obvious; keeping them safe, feeding them, putting them down for naps, and keeping them away from me as I worked.  As they grew, I had to make it more clear boundaries to nanny’s of what I expected.  Some of these included making sure they had a plan for the day, some creative ideas for crafts and outside play, making sure that my kids weren’t watching too much TV, and staying off their phones for personal use unless an emergency.

      Just some thoughts for you as you tread the waters of outsourcing.  Feel free to e-mail or comment below with questions and I will do my best to answer as I know.  Who knows too, maybe one day your kids will be walking down the aisle to celebrate the marriage of one of your nanny’s! (Below is one of our favorite nanny’s who started watching my kids right after Ben was born! We are still good friends to this day!)

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        Taking on 2015!!

        Blogging to say the least has been on the back burner for me this past year and especially this last season of life… and rightly so with all the events that have turned our way this starting in November.  A brief rundown for those who do not follow me on Facebook or Instagram…

        November 18th our neighbor’s town home started on fire forcing us to move.  First it was a to a hotel for 3 weeks, than temporary housing for 2 months and then Lord willing, Feb 2, we will move into a new home and stop moving… hopefully.

        Add in Thanksgiving, my son’s 6th birthday, finishing up my fall and winter sessions, my grandfather passing away, another good family friend passing away at a young age that same week, Christmas, and New Year’s, I would say that I am giving myself lots of grace to have NOT blogged.

        Thankfully my husband has logged pretty much our whole adventure on his blog here.  Read more about the details and our crazy season at your leisure.  We are now slowly working on transitioning into 2015!

        To say the least, we were really blessed through 2014, and even though it didn’t end the way we thought it would, God definitely had great plans for the Feder five!  Throughout the fire process we have learned how to go with the flow, be more bold in our faith, give lots of grace while standing up for what we need (because really, we do need a mattress to sleep on that doesn’t reek of smoke!), and look at life in a whole new way and purpose!

        We are staring at a blank slate for the year and even though we can plan for things, there are events that will happen that are totally out of our control.  So in the world of resolutions and planning, the one goal I have is to live life purposfully.  Weather that be in being a wife, mom, business owner, or photographer.  I long for meaningful conversations, people to love on and give grace to.  I want to live as Jim Elliot quotes “Wherever you are, be ALL there”.

        For this girl, it means putting the phone down when my kids get home from school.  It means making time for good friends either in person or on the phone.  It means pursuing on giving back with photography.  It means going on dates with my husband and not talking about kids or work! It means blogging or posting iPhone photos because it really is ok, really.  It means continuing  to be real and honest with others and letting them into my life. It means focusing on the task at hand when I sit down at the computer and not going all over the place only to forget why I sat down in the first place!  It means having people over for dinner, coffee, or dessert.  It means pursuing Jesus at a deeper level, and it meanks enjoying the life that God has me in RIGHT NOW!

        2015, I can’t wait to see what you will hold and I look forward to pursuing you with purpose and meaning!

         

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        • There’s no doubt that life can come throwing stones at you, but never forget that when things go wrong it always come back to being right. Enjoy life and give it purpose. Be it through photography or other things, always think positive and BE positive.

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        Becoming an entrepreneur wasn’t easy. It took a lot of hard work in understanding what I wasn’t good at before understanding what I was good at. I failed a lot in the process. 
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We often only see the good things and success stories on social media, but getting to the point where we are confident in ourselves and our work takes time and lots of failures. Trust me. 25 years and still working at it!!
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